Focus on What You Can Change

This one is for the men out there, since it seems to be more common a complaint/lament amongst the dudes:

Okay, let’s be clear here. There are women who simply will not date a man unless he “qualifies” on her unwritten list of required attributes. For some women, it means that a man has to be at least six feet tall. Or maybe he has to earn at least six figures. Or …. maybe he has to be a certain ethnicity.

Like it or not, there are plenty of women who have these standards that you and I can consider superficial and unfair. It doesn’t matter how socially savvy you are, how amazing your conversational skills are, or how fun and exciting of a personality you have. You won’t ever be under consideration as dating material.

But guess what? You just have to get over it.

You know that saying, “There’s no point in crying over spilled milk?” Well, I’m going to give you a modified version of that: “There’s no point in crying over a glass of milk that was never yours to begin with.”

Some women, by virtue of certain traits you absolutely have no control over, will immediately rule you out. That’s life. And the sooner you accept that, the sooner you can get on with meeting women whose lists you do actually qualify for.

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